A FATHER'S LOVE & LACK THEREOF:

The HARSH IMPACT ON RELATIONSHIPS

Pain and Inexperience, 2 undeniable symptoms and relationship-killers of being raised without a father. Let’s break it down:

Her Pain: a (conscious or unconscious) pain felt by the void of an absent father. A void felt by both men and women but for the sake of this conversation we’ll speak about women’s silent pain that sabotages a relationship, and a man’s inexperience to lead a relationship, as a result of being raised without a father. For a woman raised without a father, pain appears in different ways, it’s often disguised and must be decoded, from my own personal experiences and the shared experiences of women both raised with a father and women raised without a father, we’ve discovered a common way that pain reveals itself is in a woman’s inability to “Let him win” or “Let him think he won.” This applies to everything from an argument, to who has the best directions to get to a location, to who has the right viewpoint on a controversial topic. It’s clear and scientifically proven that men operate best from their ego, and when a man is proved wrong (over and over again), ultimately his ego is bruised, and results in poor performance in the relationship. From my focus group style conversation on this topic, it’s clear some fatherless women have no filter in arguing with her man to no-end, to prove a point, whereas women who grew up understanding the well-known concept of let him “think he won” will argue their point but leave room to allow the man to think he won the argument/debate. Through no fault of her own, there are things a fatherless woman will struggle with in a relationship, or worst getting a man to begin with, simply because the lack thereof of a father’s love.   

His Inexperience: this one is short and simple, and easier to decode, men who grew up without a father naturally watched their mother lead, they didn’t witness the male-female power balance, they witnessed their mother have full power in all areas and was fully taken-care-of by their mother and grew to desire/expect a woman to take care of them, without reciprocating what it is to take care of a woman. We’ll be discussing this and much more during the upcoming Real-Life Conversation.  

Talk soon,
-Krystal Glass... the gem of real-life conversations.

IG: @KrystalGlasstheGem 


SEXLESS RELATIONSHIPS: FOR BETTER OR WORST?

Is celibacy a badge of honor for some women? Have women been conditioned to feel as though they are "giving away" something during sex? Is this mentally and emotionally damaging for a woman to carry the burden that she alone "gave away" something? Do men mentally and emotionally feel like they "gave away" something after sex? Does God favor you more if you were celibate? Does celibacy protect your relationship from cheating and hardships? Tough questions for the celibate woman. Looking forward to tonight's Real-Life Conversation with a married woman who was celibate until married. Live phone conversation starts at 8pm ET. Tune-in, share your opinion, or just listen-in.

Talk soon!
-Krystal Glass the Gem... of real-life conversations.

IG: @KrystalGlasstheGem 


Medical experimentation on African-Americans

Rasheena Phinisee empties her 20-month-old daughter Assiah's bile bag, a remnant of her liver transplant and subsequent surgeries.

Rasheena Phinisee empties her 20-month-old daughter Assiah's bile bag, a remnant of her liver transplant and subsequent surgeries.

The upcoming Real-Life Conversation will be a wake-up call for many. The story of 8 year old Assiah Phinisee is modern day proof of doctors experimenting on black people, taking bodily cells and intentionally inserting diseases into black bodies. For the doubters and unbelievers, one google search on The Tuskegee Experiment proves that black men were intentionally injected with syphilis FOR 40 YEARS. 40 years... can you imagine how many generations of black people were affected from being intentionally injected with syphilis (and who knows what else). Then there's the case of Henrietta Lacks- a black woman who allegedly had cancer and was being treated by doctors who were taking cells from her body without her knowing. Research shows her cells were used to create the polio vaccine, understand cancer growth, and even used to test the effects of the atom bomb. Was she taken advantage of and had her cells stolen because she was black? Looking deeper than race, I'd argue her cells we're stolen against her will, not because her skin is black, it's what's under her skin and the skin of black people, it's clear our DNA is completely and uniquely different from any other human, it's not the color of our skin that makes us the most hated humans on earth, how did we fall for the lie of racism being about skin color, other brown and black people (black skin Indians, Asians, etc.) aren't hated or mistreated near the level of hate towards black people. Racism never made sense to me, you don't hate a tree because you don't like the color of the tree, you hate a tree because of the roots it's connected to, we have divine roots, and have been intentionally brutalized because of our divine roots. But I digress, the story at hand is the story of a single mother who was pregnant and receiving government assistance. When it came time to deliver her baby, 24 year old Rasheena Phinisee went to a community clinic to give birth to her daughter, after giving birth she found out her baby was unknowingly a part of a clinical study. Rasheena's life forever changed when she found out her baby was diagnosed with liver disease. This is an example of a single black mother with limited resources being taken advantage of. Perhaps the doctors felt that a young, single, pregnant, black woman wouldn't have the intellect to know what was going on, and even if she found out, she wouldn't have the money and resources to fight back. That wasn't the case with Rasheena, she filed a lawsuit and was compensated. During my upcoming Real-Life Conversation I'll be speaking with Rasheena about her experience dealing with medical racism. Join the live phone conversation to ask questions and to share your thoughts. To RSVP for the phone number, email me at: KrystalGlass@RealLifeConvo.com

Talk soon,

-Krystal Glass, the gem of real-life conversations. 


HUMAN TRAFFICKING IS MODERN DAY SLAVERY

The case of the 34 missing black girls reveals so much about the world and the times we live in. Young black girls in the nation's capital we're stolen and sold. Let's take away the facts for a second, take away the fact that they are black, take away the fact that they are young girls, now that we've removed the emotional connection to this case, let's factor in that there is a modern-day form of slavery that's happening, and that's hidden right in front of our eyes. It's coming to light that there are people in our society that live a regular life of work, family and social outings and return home to slaves in their basements (let's not forget the case of Amanda Berry). The underground world of enslaving people for forced labor and sex exists, and sadly it is strongly predicted that 34 young blacks girls we're stolen and sold into modern-day slavery. We'll be discussing this and much more during the upcoming Real-Life Conversation about the case of DC's Missing Girls. Dial-in to the conversation to share your thoughts. Email me for the phone number, my email is: KrystalGlass@RealLifeConvo.com

 

-Krystal Glass, the gem of real-life conversations. 


My Conversation with a Transwoman about Gender Identity

 

Shar Jossell, a transgender woman shares her perspective on gender identity during a Real-Life Conversation with Krystal Glass.

Shar Jossell, a transgender woman shares her perspective on gender identity during a Real-Life Conversation with Krystal Glass.

Some have called it delusional, deceitful, and outright dangerous to appear to be a woman when you’re biologically a man. While some fight and have lost their lives for the freedom to express their gender identity. In the latest episode of Real-Life Conversations, I spoke with a transwoman about gender identity. While the conversation was short and to the point, it proves that there needs to be much more intersectional dialogue between cis-gender and trans-gender individuals. Here’s a snapshot of a few comments surrounding the debate on whether transwoman should be labeled a woman without using “trans” as the prefix.  

“The prefix is fair and necessary, you we’re not created a woman, you trans-formed into a woman, period.”

"As a black male, my gender expression was policed, transitioning was a way of freedom for me."

“Trans Women Are Women. This Isn’t a Debate”

“If I paint a pear red, does that make it an apple?”

“Gender identity is internal knowledge, it’s a personal sense of one’s own body, and people should have the right to express their gender as they see fit.”

Listen to the full conversation here: www.RealLifeConvo.com/phone

-Krystal Glass, the gem of real-life conversations.


Ain't I A Woman?

Look around... there are a lot of black men in transition from male to female. Once fully transitioned into a female, many equate themselves with a natural born woman. The problem? Recently feminist leader Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie commented "A transwoman is a trans woman," stating that a transwoman is not to be equated with a woman born female. This sparked a national dialogue about the definition of a woman. Where do you stand?... Should transwoman be labled a woman? Should they not have to prefix their gender with the word "trans"? The upcoming conversation seeks to explore gender identity from a transwoman's perspective. During the upcoming live phone conversation I'll be speaking with a prominent transwoman about her perspective. Call-in to share your thoughts on this very Real-Life Conversation. Email me to receive the phone number, my email is KrystalGlass@RealLifeConvo.com

Talk soon,

-Krystal Glass, the gem of real-life conversations. 


She left him broke and broken hearted

She left him broke and broken hearted, through no fault of her own, but through his lack of money management and lack of humility in being honest with what he could afford and what he could not. He secretly always felt like she was out of his league, so he used the best thing he had to try to keep her... his money. Like most relationships he took financial responsibility for all the dates and when the holiday season came around he went overboard and showered her with gifts, not because he thought she was a great girlfriend, but because he unconsciously associated his money with his manhood, the more money he had to spend, the more he felt like a man. He was never taught money-management, not in school, nor in his household. After 9 months of dating and nearly $9k spent on wining, dining, gifts, travel, and outings, their relationship ended, leaving him broke and broken hearted. The moral of the story: know your relationship with money and how to manage your money. The "For the Love of Money workshop will teach you aggressive savings strategies, effective ways to manage credit, and how to budget. Don't miss this workshop taught by the Senior Vice President of Industrial Bank. Limited seating available. Get your seat. Click here for more info.

See you there,

-Krystal Glass... the gem of real-life conversations. 


Black & Suicidal

A Study of Racial Discrimination and Suicidal Thoughts

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Join me for an upcoming Real-Life Conversation about the link between racial discrimination and suicidal thoughts. 

Clinical Psychologist and University of Houston psychology professor Dr. Rheeda Walker led the groundbreaking research study “A Longitudinal Study of Racial Discrimination and Risk for Death Ideation in African-American Youth.”

During the upcoming conversation we'll be talking about the rise of swastikas being spray painted on buildings, cars, and homes of black people, most recently the case of the NFL player whose house was broken into and vandalized with swastikas. I look forward to hearing Dr. Walker's findings on how racism contributes to suicidal thoughts in black people.

To RSVP to receive the phone number email: KrystalGlass@RealLifeConvo.com

Join the conversation,

-Krystal Glass, the gem of real-life conversations. 

 

ABSTRACT FROM THE STUDY:

A LONGITUDINAL STUDY OF RACIAL DISCRIMINATION AND RISK FOR DEATH IDEATION IN AFRICAN AMERICAN YOUTH

Although multiple studies have found that African Americans commonly experience racial discrimination, available studies have yet to examine how perceived racism might be related to suicide vulnerability in African American youth. The purpose of this study was to examine a framework for how perceived racial discrimination contributes to symptoms of depression and anxiety as well as subsequent suicide ideation and morbid ideation. Data were obtained from 722 African American youth at mean age 10.56 years (SD = 0.64); a second wave of data was obtained 2 years later. Results revealed both a direct effect and mediated effects of perceived racism on later suicide and morbid ideation. For boys and girls, the effect of perceived racism was mediated by symptoms of depression. However, the association was mediated by anxiety for girls, but not for boys in the current sample. Implications for future research and interventions are discussed.

“A Longitudinal Study of Racial Discrimination and Risk for Death Ideation in African American Youth” by Rheeda Walker, David Francis, Gene Brody, Ronald Simons, Carolyn Cutrona and Frederick Gibbons in Suicide and Life-Threatening Behavior. Published online May 3, 2016.


He’s Not What He Tweeted to Be

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I got my first glimpse of how social media vanity can ruin a relationship a few years ago when Twitter first came out. I was dating this guy who would tweet at 5 am “Rise and Grind” and go on-and-on about how he was up and grinding. Little did the world know he was tweeting from under the covers in his bed and would go right back to sleep after he tweeted.  The moral of the story is that he was perpetrating as if he was all those great things he tweeted to be, when at the end of the day all he wanted was social media vanity. It was such a turn off and was a contributing factor to me breaking up with him, the social media facade was unbearable! Can anyone relate? We’ll be discussing this and much more during the upcoming conversation. Be ready to laugh, discuss, and share your thoughts on social media impostors and how social media vanity can make or break a relationship. Click here for tickets. 


The Blossoming into womanhood

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The difference between a woman and a girl ultimately comes down to her level of self-governance... the ability to govern her mind, body, and spirit to the utmost.

It's the mastering of self that leads to true womanhood. I for one am Blossoming... 

and can't wait to have this Real-Life Conversation about womanhood and life's transitions.

 To RSVP: Email me at KrystalGlass@RealLifeConvo.com to receive the phone number. 


The Difference Between Stroking His Ego & Protecting His Ego

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During the conversation about "The Male Ego: When Pride Gets in The Way" we discussed the male ego in relationships-- and how a man's ego can sometimes be used to mask insecurities or to mask his true feelings. One of the realest parts of the conversation was when we talked about men and childhood abandonment issues. We often hear conversations about women and abandonment issues/daddy issues, but we rarely hear about men and abandonment issues that stem from their relationship or lack thereof with their mother. If you missed the conversation, check out the recorded version at www.RealLifeConvo.com/phone

-Krystal Glass... the gem of real-life conversations.


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Here's the Short Versions of What People Had To Say

 “The fact that he was involved in a rape case is enough for me to decide whether I want to spend my money to support his movie. I actually made a conscious effort a long time ago to stop supporting men who degrade our women and women who degrade our men. I don’t consume or support any rap music for this reason. I won’t support anything from Nate Parker, rape or not, it’s clear he could care less about black women." Candice S.

 

“Black women need help, the outrage against Nate Parker from mainly black women is ridiculous and show that they’re insecure and easily brainwashed. I’m not taking up for him because he’s a man or a brotha, I’m not taking up for him at all because I don’t know the story, but I refuse to go online and jump on the bandwagon to beat him down for no factual reason. All these holier than thou black women bearing false witness. But they the same one’s listening to throw back R. Kelly and watching the Cosby show on rerun. Pick a side.” Ryan J.

 

“Nate Parker’s first responses about the allegations were so cold and heartless, but after much debate with my boyfriend, we both agreed that when you do no wrong you don’t owe anyone compassion. Looking back on it, he responded with a clear conscious, not guilty of committing a crime. Our country has an ugly history of black men and rape, and an even uglier history of painting black men as ruthless, I’m glad you’re having this conversation because I had to question myself on whether or not I give black men the benefit of the doubt, and sadly most of the time I don’t. Thanks for having this conversation, me and my man will be on the phone call! Thanks.” –Amanda T

 

“Since when did a “train” become rape? From what I read about the case they were all drunk and had sex. If I had to guess from her childhood of being in foster care and dealing with depression, this was not her first time being drunk and having reckless sex. It’s not fair that when she sobered up and the smoke cleared and she realized she had a train ran on her that she wants to call it rape. Rape is wrong. But she wasn’t sober enough to remember what happen, that means she could have came on to them, and forgot, since she was so drunk. She made a poor decision and woke up and wanted to call it rape. No. Not rape in my book.” –Jason W.

 

“It might not have been rape, but they were foul for that. I was taught at an early age never to entertain a drunk woman that I wasn't in a relationship with. Especially as a black man.” –Anonymous

 

-Krystal Glass... the gem of real-life conversations.


Is melanin a supreme gene?

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#Facts

"American journal of medical genetics 1985, Page 69: In a study, black neonates (infants) are more advanced at the onset. " (Meaning those with increased amounts of melanin are born genetically more advanced.)

"Those with increased amounts of melanin have a biological door through which a force of spiritual-conviction passes from the spirit to the physical." (Meaning those with increased amounts of melanin have the innate ability to bring something to fruition through sheer belief.) Wow!!!! C'mon Manifestation!

"According to dermatologist and dermapathologist Dr. Leon Edelstein, director of the National American West Skin Pathology Consultation Service, melanin can transform harmful energy like overexposure to UV rays, x-ray machines, etc. into useful cellar energy." (Meaning those with increased amounts of melanin have an innate ability to heal and repair their cells.) Self-healing capabilities!

Joining the phone conversation to provide more facts and insights is Dr. T. Owners Moore a Physiological Psychologist and expert on melanin. I hope you didn't miss this conversation! The end got so real. Listen here.

-Krystal Glass... the gem of real-life conversations.


Black Lives Matter... to Who?

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As a nation we have been onlookers, watching raw video footage of police brutally kill unarmed black men.  Some of the videos capture the victim's final words, an emotional outcry, panic, pain, and trauma. The raw videos are then released to the public, uncensored, and given free range to air on social media platforms and in the news. Many are beginning to question the psychological impact of viewing ongoing videos of white men in police uniform kill unarmed black men. What is this doing to our mental state, our sense of self-worth, our sense of citizenship as Americans, etc.

What are your thoughts? Share them on the upcoming phone conversation as we have a Real-Life Conversation with a mental health specialist about the mental effect of viewing white men in police uniform kill unarmed black men. Click here to RSVP for the upcoming phone conversation. 

-Krystal Glass... the gem of real-life conversations.


IT ALL STARTED WITH A TWEET

Young, Fly, & Bossy! The conversation with the women of KMR Law Group was amazing! They shared their story about how they met on Twitter, quit their day jobs, and created a successful law firm. We had a real-life conversation about the challenges and benefits of being in a partnership. We talked about their experiences with racism, ageism, and sexism. The 3 power attorney's also shared tips and legal advice as it relates to forming partnerships and collaborations. Listen to the conversation here.

-Krystal Glass... the gem of real-life conversations.


HOW TO MAKE THE COVER PAGE: a rEAL-LIFE CONVERSATION ABOUT Branding

 

Recently I spoke with Instagram Star Tonya Rapley about her poppin' brand and how she made her brand successful. The conversation got so real! Tonya shared some of the tactics she used to build her brand and her personal story of learning how to compartmentalize set-backs. Listen to our conversation here.

-Krystal Glass... the gem of real-life conversations.